Danielle is the mother to 3 children, one being a son with PKU. She lives in New Jersey with her boyfriend of 7 years, 3 children, and pet cats. She loves blogging and sharing her views on products, books, and services. She write reviews and hosts giveaway at a delicious obsession.
This is a guest post written by Danielle over at a delicious obsession.
How do you react when your [small] child tells you no? What do you do when they don't listen? These are common problems a lot of parents deal with when they have small children; including me. I am the mother to three small children – 6, 4, and 2 months old. I am still at a loss with how to deal with the situations when they arise. My approaches don't seem to work and I find myself stressing each and every day.
I didn't have to deal with this much with my first daughter, but my second daughter is totally different. She seems to think she is the boss and if she doesn't get her way, she throws a fit. She loves saying, "You make me mad!" or "Leave me alone!". When I ask her to do something, she'll fold her arms, put her head down, and stand still. Dealing with everything else I do during the day, I have to admit that her attitude will usually make me angry.
I don't like feeling the way I do each day and I definitely don't look forward to the attitude episodes of the day. I frequently research ways to deal with issues like this with small children in hopes that maybe one, if not more, will work. I would love to be able to find something that will help my daughter be open minded and happy, even if it is something she will grow out of.
One of techniques I have read about is praising your child. My daughter goes to preschool half day so I'm sure she gets a lot of praising there. That's doesn't mean I don't praise her at home though. I always let her know when she has done a good job, or that I think she is very smart. Praising a child has been said that it could help shape a child's behavior. While it does make my daughter smile and feel good about herself (for the moment), it doesn't really help with anything else.
Motivators and rewards are said to be another way to shape a child's behavior. And while I haven't specifically given my daughter a reward for doing good (I don't feel I should have to), I actually feel it is a way of bribing. I guess if you use the technique properly it could work, but I'm still not sure if it would work with my situation. This reminds me of the ole' ticket system for kids.
The ticket system is when you give your child a few "tickets" to start the day and you can give them extra for behaving good, doing chores, helping without being asked, etc or you take them away if they act out, disobey, fight, etc. You keep track of the tickets they have at the end of each day and based on the total number at the end of the week, they get a reward.
I haven't personally tried this; I thought my children were too young. I think it may be a good time to introduce this to my girls. It would be something to experiment with. Maybe it will work and maybe it won't. Either way, I love my daughters (and son) and I'm very proud of them nonetheless.
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